Had my third meal at Soup Spoon for this month. This time with a old friend, Dom whom I know for two years, a very charming guy. Anyway... we are talking about his relationship with his BF and my previous and current one with I, me and myself. He spoke of his partner with joy and you can almost see the glow on his face.
At one point, I shared him something that only a handful will know. During my last relationship, there was once I dreamt of a guy, whom I know quite closely. Then I woke up with a overwhelming guilt and cried. That was it. The friend never knew and it was after our broke up, then I told T about it. Then I laughed it off, understanding it as a once off thing and it was just a dream.
As I recalled that with Dom, I told him that last relationship was a true test to myself how faithful I can be. The naysayers will say that it is merely the pressure to be faithful. I cannot agree with that. As far as I am concerned, it was about keeping myself for the person I loved when I am with someone. It is simple as that and I never like to complicate stuff.
The recent talk sparked off a string of discussion online about accepting different types of relationships and sexual behaviours. As you may understand now, I am only into monogamy now, with the emphasis on NOW. The other things are "Been There, Done That". Nothing else tweak my eyebrows. You may think I am a white angel but I can surprise you with my red arena, which I wore last Fabulous Sunday but realised I am too flabby to show it. :(
I maintain my stand that a helper should not be judgmental about anything and only to assist the helped one to make own decisions. That is not effective support when I am telling you what you should do.
I totally agreed with this part in one of Dr Tan Chong Kee's article on Fridae.
If we can start thinking of monogamy as an indicator rather than a moral value, we will save ourselves a lot of trouble. No more icky arguments about cheating, no more sexual frustrations within ‘monogamous’ relationships, no more strategising about whether to choose an open or a monogamous arrangement, no more game-playing. And without all these yucky stuff, we can better concentrate on building strong loving relationships and show those clueless heterosexuals what marriage is really about.Talking about Singapore's heterosexuals are monogamous... then Geylang, Joo Chiat and Desker must be actively promoted as a tourist location for it to be so jam packed.
